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By Glen J. Dalakian Sr.

Every one of us is wanting in some area of life, but I have found for a true entrepreneur “want” is not enough. If we are looking to achieve goals and make our lives better, “have to” needs to be the drive that takes us to the next level. During my brief time in venture capital, one of the key qualifiers for a plan to receive funding would be to have someone on the team that was a bulldog in the sense that no matter what happened, they were going to persevere and make things work. A great product or service with wishy-washy leadership was not considered to be a viable investment.

“Have to” is not a choice; it’s a key ingredient for success in any endeavor. With every situation, there are responsibilities we like to handle and some we don’t. A leader does not have a choice but to do both to the best of his/her ability. When you plan for the future and set goals to achieve the lifestyle you seek, prioritize the have-to objectives, and the rest will fall in place. The most successful people have driven themselves to go beyond persistent into a realm where others do not often tread, and this has great rewards.

Risk is always a part of the game, whether you are starting a business or driving a career, there are chances that need to be taken. In some cases, they are calculated risks and in some it’s a throw of the dice. When people ask me about a new venture or a career change, one of my first questions is, “What will you do if this fails, if you lose your financial investment or current standings?”

When you learn to go beyond “want to” and create a “have to” attitude (and related habits), you’ll reach a place of gratitude that I call “get to.” With the right amount of effort, that leads to greater achievements you’ll experience a place in your life where you will have the perspective that every day is a blessing, and “get to” is a personal outlook that is filled with contentment and confidence. This is the unique space where nothing seems impossible, and the skills you have developed can be applied in any circumstance to better your standing and that of those around you.

In short, we get to do the things we want to because we excelled at first taking care of the have-to work.

“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” -Calvin Coolidge

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